STOP, TAKE A BREATH AND RELAX
Supermom, you’ve probably heard that term before. Google defines it as “an exemplary or exceptional mother, especially one who successfully manages a home and brings up children while also having a full-time job”. Sounds tough, right?
Well, it definitely is. Trying to juggle everything at once while trying to be the supermom you think your kids need, can get to be a little stressful. I’m not saying that being a supermom is horrible or even, impossible. Some amazing women who possess a greater skill set and patience than me have successfully achieved that, which is great. But, it just wasn’t for me.
Trying to be this ideal, picture-perfect mom, in fact, actually made me worse at my job. I was stressed out, constantly anxious and overall not being able to give my best. I am sure a lot of you relate to this, and if you can, then you needn’t worry. There are a few strategies that will help you deal with this better.
Understand that it is okay not to be perfect. Read that again, until you can fully understand it. The problem with many of us is that we try and match up to this ideal self that we think we should be. This stress of holding ourselves up a certain level of perfection eventually hurts our ability to be a good mom.
It’s okay if the dishes aren’t done every night, it’s okay if you were reading bedtime stories and forgot to put in the last load of laundry. And, it’s okay if you had to prioritise a work meeting over your child’s tea party.
Trying to accomplish each and every task is close to impossible in some of our lives and we have to accept that. If we don’t then the stress of it all will prevent us from being able to enjoy the beautiful moments we experience as a mom. So, if you aren’t perfect, it’s okay; most of us are in the same boat as you!
Take some time out for yourself. Yes, it is very important to look after your family, spend time with them and be there for them when they need you. But, it is also important to be there for your own self. If you aren’t capable of taking care of yourself, how can you take care of your precious ones?
Take a little bit of time, say 10, 20 or even 30 minutes, out of your daily life for yourself every day. Delve into old pastimes, or acquire new ones; read, listen to music or take a walk. Shut the world out for a little bit every day and take some time to be with yourself. Let yourself grow and experience the world around you.
Remember, while you are a mom, a wife and a business associate, you are your own person as well. In between reading bed-time stories, preparing meals, completing household chores and spending time with your family, you must take a little time out for yourself and enjoy who you are.
At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that all moms are humans. We make mistakes, we aren’t perfect and we mess up more often than not. But we’re trying our best and that’s good enough.