Published by Cindy on June 15, 2017


As parents, we want to do the best for our kids. We don’t want to see them sad or upset, we want them to still be kids and not grow up too fast. But, we can’t stop time, and we definitely can’t stop our kids from growing up. While we may be required to undertake tasks on their behalf, we aren’t supposed to shoulder all their responsibilities.

Yes, as parents we want them to lead an easy life. But, as parents, we also have to teach them how to be independent and responsible.

Of course, a toddler can’t immediately be expected to start becoming independent and responsible, but you can still use a few ways to check whether you are giving them enough responsibilities.

Their reaction

How do your kids react to being given any responsibility? Do they react with enthusiasm or shrink away from it?

If they are prone to shrinking away from their responsibilities it might be due to the fact that they are already overwhelmed with the responsibilities they already have. Or they may simply not be eager to take on any. This is something you, who knows your child the best, will be able to decide.

If your child is eager to accept more responsibility, then you can be assured that you are giving them the right amount.

Their requests

Does your child ask for more chores or ask you to delegate more tasks to them?

While you may think this is an absurd question, it actually isn’t.

Children are quite good at judging themselves, especially their capabilities. If they have an innate need for more responsibility, he or she may seek to complete by asking to do more work, take on more chores, etc. Trust their instincts a little more and try to find a perfect balance.

Friends and family

If you have friends or family with kids about the same age as yours, it can be pretty useful. You can compare notes on whether or not your child is shouldering roughly the same amount of responsibilities as his or her friends.

You can even ask them for tips to help ensure that you are not overburdening your child or that they are not getting extra leeway.

With age come responsibilities

As children grow up and become more responsible, their privileges should reflect that as well. Conversely, as their privilege increases, so should their responsibilities.

If you’re able to maintain equilibrium, then you can be assured that you are on the right track.

While teaching responsibility to your toddler can be considered a little too soon, in my opinion, it is not too early.

Teaching kid’s responsibility is a tricky thing. Every child is different and the same approach may not work for all of them. Apart from that, each family and their parenting style is different, what may be effective for one, may not be for the other. However, this may be useful to help us have a general idea of whether or not we are giving our children enough responsibility.